Love the sinner, hate the sin. It's a phrase we all have likely heard, especially in faith circles. When it's said, it's supposedly meant in love. Trying to show someone the error of their ways, seeking to help them to escape the eternal torment of hell. Yet, for many, those words are not received as loving words, as words meant to point to a loving God. Instead, for many those words leave behind a question, “Why does God hate me?”
In my wandering around the internet, I came across an article (https://www.nytimes.com/…/seth-stephens-davidowitz-googling…) about the things people search for on the internet. When it comes to God, the number one question is: 'Who created God?' Then comes, 'Why does God allow suffering?' The third question is, 'Why does God hate me?' When Google looked into the way people finished the internet search, 'Why did God make me_________?' The results are heartbreaking. The number one word was 'ugly', then 'black', then 'gay'. Other common words were: short, stupid, fat. It makes me cry.
Whether we like it or not, whether we want to face it or not, those internet searches are in many ways a rephrasing of the question, 'Why does God hate me?' It breaks my heart, and forces me to admit that there are way too many incorrect and damaging ideas about God. And the damage being done isn't to God, it's to the least among us. The church may teach that we are all sinners that have failed in doing that which God desires, but, it also declares and affirms that each of us is created in the image of God, that each of us is loved unconditionally.
Somehow, that message, the one of love and being made in God's image has not been heard by many. Instead what is heard is that God is judgmental, that Christians are hypocritical, that God has favorites – with some being made beautiful, and others ugly. With some being made gay, and others straight. And that that difference was a punishment of some kind.
The thing is, God doesn't play favorites. God isn't the one who labels and excludes, who determines who is in and who is out – it's us human beings. We are the ones who have divided people into categories, who have created societies where a person’s physical appearance or their being a part of a specific demographic group is what is important, rather than the content of their heart, the character of their lives. A practice and message that contradicts the message we see in the Bible over and over again.
The message of Scripture, from Genesis through Revelation is that God has come into the world to reconcile all people, that God's love is for all people, that God's grace is freely given to everyone. It is the mission and calling of the church, both as an institution and as individuals of faith to spread the message of God's love and grace far and wide. We must do all we can to counter the damage done by the poor theology that has resulted in so much pain and unhappiness in others.
If we can do that, even just a little bit, it could bring the hope and peace that may cause people to change their Google searches from wondering why God hates them, to: “Why does God care for me so much?” and “Why did God make me so beautiful and beloved?”
With the Greatest of Hope!